I was riding the jeepney one day, when a couple of women hailed it and boarded. One was a real looker- long waves of locks, attractive eyes, flawless skin; while her companion is average looking, with shortish hair, big shirt. When I disembarked from the jeepney, they went down too. That's when I knew that they were my new neighbors.
A distant relative of mine who's living with us to man the house while we're earning our keep shared to me that those new neighbors are actually into a romantic relationship, and are living together as a couple. I was about to laugh out loud, but then, I remember, that in a not so distant past, my own family had gone through confrontations, denials, and a lot of tears- when my Momma found out that my sister is having a girlfriend, and worst, they're already living in.
I don't know whether its a test for love and acceptance, but you see, my family is trying its best to put our best foot forward and project the image of a perfect family. We belong to a conservative Christian group where proper behavior and values are regarded at its strictest terms. My father is one of the church leaders, and were supposed to be an example to the flock. My father always emphasized that we must think a thousand times before before we take action, because we are a people living in a glass bowl.
When Momma found out , she was of horrified. Though there wasn't any shouting, Momma's words were hard, spoken between clenched teeth. My sister did not deny the allegations. At first, my father threatened of disowning her, but sweet Momma, coax him into understanding my sister instead and try to help her get over it. Sometimes, it get worse when she'd mention the girl in our family conversations.My Father did try to be nonchalant about it. I try to be nonchalant about it.
I've had a lot of homosexual friends and I knew some who are living together. But there's a different feeling I can't explain when its as close as a sister.
But the worst news was when my mother confessed to me that she used to have that kind of relationship,during her wild days in the sixties- long before she met my father. I was shocked of course, but I'm the master of nonchalance. I did not tell my sister about it for she'll think that its going to be alright for her since mom did it. But times had change now. My Mother does not approve it, nor my father, not me.
We tried to understand it, but still, every now and then, we encourage her to give up the relationship. Of course we don't totally accept her behavior, but the love for my sister is there. I hope she'll soon realize that its a relationship hat's going nowhere, and we pray for a man for her to come along. Soon.
Personally, I think, being gay, if your a woman is different from being a male gay. More often than not, one can already sense that a male will grow up gay as early as five years old because you can see already see that there is some kind of softness in his movements. On the other hand, females who were tomboyish as kids would learn to be lady like once they develop crushes with the opposite sex. I've personally known women who engaged in a same-sex relationship. Some of them have had previous boyfriends before, but because they were hurt by them, they resorted to lesbians thinking that they are better lovers than the men.
I don't have anything against homosexuals. I even think that most of them are the artistic type with a lot to contribute for the good of the society. But I really do not know what to think once they start being into a sexual relationship, much less live together as a couple. I don't think I'd understand it at all, But what I can do is accept them as a person, and if they are happy, then I'd just be happy for them too.
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